The Adventures of Miss Mouse

by Debbie Twomey on March 20, 2014

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The terrible twos did not get their name for nothing. Believe me, even after taking care of many children and raising my daughter from the age of 22 months on, I am discovering just why it has earned that reputation.

Today’s blog is simply little tales of the adventures of Miss Mouse (my granddaughter McKenna Elise Rose who is 29 months old) because, well they just shock, frustrate and even amuse me. Most of all they are just too much.

Last week alone:

McKenna decided she needed a haircut so she got on my desk (a place she has been punished for going on but…)took out the large scissors and just hacked off her bangs to brush cut level. While she was there she also found the permanent marker I had hidden from her and wrote her little signature all over my desk.

A little while later she was misbehaving and had to go sit on her bed to settle down until I told her to get up. I went to go get the mail and you guessed it, she got out of her bed and locked me out. Oh yes, I was out on the porch in the 5 degree weather seething. She can lock the deadbolt but to open she needs a chair and to keep trying. For those of you who know us, you know this is the second time she has done this and NO I do not have a key for the deadbolt to keep on the porch or it would have been there.

I have had a terrible time with colds this season so I had to finally relent and get some over the counter medication just to see or prove it makes no difference and the oils are just as effective. I had it on the top shelf of medicine cabinet and while I was retrieving laundry Miss Mouse got on toilet and got the bottle opened and poured all over bathroom floor. Yes she could have drunk some though the worst that would happen would probably be a tummy ache. I now have a bungee cord on the handles. I used to have such control that my voice alone prevented kids from repeating such actions. Not with Miss Mouse!

Lest you think I often turn my back on this precocious wild 2 year old let me put your concerns to rest. She is like Velcro, always at my side but once in awhile I request that she play alone or watches one of her shows so I can get things done. I can be right next to her and she still manages to slip something past me. It must be my age and I am just not as quick as I once was.

While snuggling in bed one morning she looks at me so serious and loving and says” I yuv you so much Nana—now tickle my back”

She is flexing her independence muscle rather strenuously and it can be trying. Her favorite Aunt Kiki was visiting her and any time she would tell McKenna to stay away from scissors McKenna would pout and walk away then rush over and hug her and say I miss you Kiki. When Kiki went to leave McK was acting badly trying to slam the door on her (she loves to have the responsibility of closing the door but not quite up to the challenge). I told her she was being rude and hurting Kiki’s feelings. McK looks at me with a puzzled look and says, “oh—- sorry about that.” It did not feel too sincere.

We had to get groceries and she rides in the cart and asks for her ‘pillow.” I always get the toilet paper first so she can lay on it. I also bring plenty of snacks and drink. When we get home she drags every single bag into the kitchen. She loves to be helpful. She started doing this trick at 12 months. She would carry a light bag in and then found she could simply drag even the heaviest so I just wait for her to bring them for me to put away.

Last night we were making pudding. Now, this is the only child I have ever had to remove the stove knobs for because she turned on a burner one time and even after being punished went to do it another time. So, I have her next to the stove at a safe distance and she pours the powder mix into pan then I place it on the stove. Before I can even react she has already shook salt into it—you think maybe she has seen me do this with other foods in that pan? I got most of it out but our pudding was not exactly sweet.

Two is the age of “I do!” They can do everything themselves and then as soon as they discover they cannot they get quite frustrated. It is the age where they think and puzzle things out for themselves. It is an age where they pay attention to everything we don’t want them too and not enough to what we want them to see. It is the age of NO and I do not care how many specialists give us these sweet little techniques of not using negative words to reinforce our feelings, when you see your toddler climbing onto the fridge cause they figured out your latest hiding place for their special treats, the first word out of your mouth is NO!

Miss Mouse is a very active, intelligent little girl. She needs to be kept busy, both physically and mentally. She has playtime with friends next door to help with this and I am discovering that like my dear friend Mary with Joshie—jumping on a mattress goes a long ways in helping burn some of that energy. But Mouse’s challenge is more mental—she likes to keep thinking and learning so she gets more time on her Leap Pad II and we got her ABCmouse (https://www.abcmouse.com)

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We read every day and she also has to find ways to keep herself busy in her little kitchen or riding her bike or coloring. I found one of the best toys lately is an empty water jug and a box. The 5 gallon jug becomes a spaceship she rides on, something to push all over the house or the door to her latest fort. The box is our house that we color and sometimes drive to go see our Joshie who we miss so terribly.

This is actually only 3 days in the life of me and my little Mouse, can you believe it? McKenna is really a trip and I am so lucky to have this time with her. I must admit, tired as I can get, I look forward to each new day and I wonder what new adventure will Miss Mouse take me on today?

 

Check out any of her adventures at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BClEbfdl4Xk&list=UU1LmhVz9r-1OblY9ya8PzKA

 

"I have dedicated my life to the care and welfare of children. I feel privileged to share what I have learned with you. I am also committed to continuously learning.  I will keep informed of the latest information in parenting children from newborns to teens and pass it on to all of you.”   I will also use that same passion to help you create a dynasty generate increases in your business with straightforward and specialized media managing skills that guarantee your connection and scope will grow. Keep up to date reading our posts and discover valuable insights that can make parenting and succeeding in the business of the blogger– the most exciting adventure. (Debbie Twomey) https://www.facebook.com/debbietwomeySMM

 

 
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Just Exactly What Did You Mean?

by Debbie Twomey on February 27, 2014

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 The power of the word on social media can reach people in way you had not meant them too so here is a word of    warning. “Humor does not always transcend the printed word.” It is really important to say what you mean and mean what you say.

I just learned a very valuable lesson. Most words are open for interpretation and this can cause a problem when there should not be one. My mentor Dr Mary Starr has told me to be cautious with my humor and that it could be taken the wrong way. She was right! Tonight it was and by someone I would never want to hurt.

Last week one of my cousins posted on her newsfeed “I can't handle the stupidity on my newsfeed.” Because she was related I figured it would be even better to post right on her page rather than within this post so I posted “Stupid is as stupid does” with a monkey covering its ears. I thought she would know the line from Forrest Gump and know I meant stupid does stupid—a word I really do not even really like but was trying to be humorous about.

Now as I read it back I can see why it could have been misunderstood because how it reads is that stupid knows stupid. That is not what I mean at all. I meant that stupid just does stupid and best to not even listen (in case it was an insult she was responding to). I mean she did not say she posted stupid things so I did not even consider she would take it personally. Instead it looked as though I was the one insulting her and it was not until I started writing this blog that I truly understood it could be taken the way she took it.

Even with all the training I have taken in Social Media and the cautions regarding what we post, I still thought my personality would come through and my cousin would know exactly what I meant. If I were reading that right now, I think I would have taken exception to it too.

You would have to know my cousin and her family to know how far this was from trying to hurt her feelings. I was reacting to her feeling as though some people post such silly things to their Facebook (as I have often done myself). I didn’t think she was being mean or nasty just saying “hey, some things are so silly.”  And I thought she would think it was funny– what I posted.

Well, it was not. When her mom contacted me and basically dressed me down for saying such a nasty thing—I could not believe it was taken in that manner. But, as I have just said, in reading it now—how could they not think the worst?

I admit it hurt my feelings to think any of her family felt I had posted a ‘veiled’ insult. The idea made me cry that they could think that of me or that I could have caused any hurt feelings. But, if my family—who knows me pretty well, could think that of me, what would strangers think when they read my posts?

I once made the error of putting some of my drama with my daughter on Facebook and discovered it was not a good move for either of us. I was frustrated and reacting to her insults posted onto my page (which is not an excuse just the reason I had done it). I had not begun my social media position but when others reacted to my posts citing that it was not very constructive, I accepted that. I also resolved that there is some “dirty laundry” that should not be on Facebook, at least not my page.

In my training with Sandi Krakowski (www.arealchange.com) she teaches that we should always be true to our own voice and that sharing personal gives us more credibility. But, I needed to learn there is a line in disclosing your life to others. Let me just say—this has always been an issue with me (that line!) long before Social Media.

So now I may share it is a bad day or I feel crummy or some fool cut me off in traffic but some things should remain personal. Most of you know I share quite a bit about my granddaughter as she is a major part of my day right now. But I hope I infuse a little bit of intelligence regarding current topics as well sharing Young Living information since I believe in it. And I try to share things that tickle me or even upset me without insulting anyone. Being true to me does mean sometimes I must reserve my opinion much as I may want to argue because it can be counterproductive. And many times I have discovered that being judgmental is not very Christian and only hurts me in the long run.

I appreciated that my cousin addressed this privately (and here I go disclosing it all but my intention is to make a serious point) and we could resolve the misunderstanding. But what if this affected someone I do business with—what if they took a post I wrote in a way it was not intended and it cost me their trust?

This incident just made me more aware of the power of the word in Social Media and that those of us in this business have a responsibility to be ethical, fair and clear as possible. This does not mean we have to agree with everything we read or cannot react in a negative way to something that really affects us, but it does mean it can be done in a precise and principled manner without crudity or insults. We want to be trusted not to always think we are viewed as Right.

I do apologize once again for my faux paux. My cousin was hurt by it and I immediately removed it so as to not confuse anyone else. My cousin was simply expressing her opinion and I was trying to tell her not to let them bother her and it was me who really upset her. I apologize for being so ambiguous and letting my words be so open to confusion. I should know better.

 

"I have dedicated my life to the care and welfare of children. I feel privileged to share what I have learned with you. I am also committed to continuously learning.  I will keep informed of the latest information in parenting children from newborns to teens and pass it on to all of you.”   I will also use that same passion to help you create a dynasty generate increases in your business with straightforward and specialized media managing skills that guarantee your connection and scope will grow. Keep up to date reading our posts and discover valuable insights that can make parenting and succeeding in the business of the blogger– the most exciting adventure. (Debbie Twomey) https://www.facebook.com/debbietwomeySMM

 
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